Success in Two Words

Success in two Words 

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Today I want to talk about two things that lead to a successful career. They are going to seem obvious once they are said, but hopefully I can give you a different perspective (especially in regards to one of them). The two things, words in this case, are motivation and passion. Motivation I feel is a bit easier to understand, but passion seems to get escape some people.

Passion is the term that I feel gets a bit lost in translation for people. First lets go back to high school for a second, and plug the definition in here. Passion is “a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept,” (Merriam-Webster). What I feel happens to many of us, is we all like so many things, that it is hard to pin something down that brings us the most joy. Then you add in our indecisive natures and the wonderful ability that our brain has of not thinking linearly. You have this wonderful concoction called Chaos, which makes it hard to really figure out what is best for us. I personally feel, that as long as you truly enjoy something you can be happy doing it. It doesn’t have to be you most enjoyed, but if it is still a passion you will be perfectly fine.

We live in an age where if someone doesn’t understand something, they are not always the most understanding of the concept. So everyone has their own predetermined path of success, which most parents also have ideas for their children that are passed down. What I feel happens is that we are molded into thinking and accepting someone else’s path of success. For example, you may love to cook, but your family is composed of professors, lawyers, and bankers. They don’t think of that as a truly great career, and it starts to change your own path of success.

Now because of fear, you have lost your path and your true passions. You see yourself doing something because of different reasons, which were not originally important to you. If you want to blog for a living, cook, start a charitable cause, or anything just go out and do it. We only have one life to live, and we should not be out there making someone else’s dream come true. You should be doing what you love, and to make it profitable and successful it takes a LOT of hard work and a lot of the second word/concept I want to talk about.

Motivation, this is the driving force in your life. A lot of people either lose this or just don’t know what to be motivated about. Something I have always found cool where personality tests. People place different amounts of merit on these things, but I have always found them very cool and interesting (you can go here for a very good personality test). This can better help you to understand yourself, at least, which is always nice. Doing things that are out of the norm truly take a lot of hard work. Just starting this endeavor now has been more work than I initially thought. Coming up with things to talk about all the time and making the videos for my YouTube channel. Add this with the fear of the unknown, and it truly leaves people in a state of panic to truly pursue things they would love to do.

No matter what you want to do, you just need to take the first scary step. You will get lots of funny looks when you tell people, for example with me that I am just writing a blog and trying to start a motivational cause. I get it all the time, but we live in 2013, we have tons of things that we can use to make a living from anywhere on any schedule. I don’t need a boss, besides the wife, telling me what to do in order to feel like I am being successful. Just keep at it, things take time and the usually don’t happen over night. Lets have a better tomorrow guys, if you need anything message me.

Relationships: Built of Moments

Relationships: Built of Moments

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So some time last week I was watching the show the Millionaire Matchmaker. From the title you can guess she helps people find love, namely millionaires. I swear she must also be part psychologist (like it is some gene passed down, lol), because she is very insightful. The things she says are great, she is blunt yet honest and sincere. Which is probably why she is so successful at her job as she genuinely cares for both parties involved, the millionaire and the person she is setting them up with. Anyways, she said something in one of the episodes I was watching, where she told the millionaire to “make a moment” out of the situation he was in.

This got me thinking, “What are relationships really made out of?” What makes them so good, and yet end up so terrible sometimes? I started thinking in the beginning phases of a relationship you are making TONS of great happy moments. Moments that help to carry the majestic feelings of love you have forward. So even though in the beginning you are going to have some disagreements, they will be quickly over looked and left in the past. They are not going to be brought up again and used in a later argument as evidence, which is what happens in older relationships. I feel this is the case in older relationships because both parties have stopped “Making Moments”. Your feelings of joy and happiness with the person are not being a strongly pushed forward as some of the other things in your relationship are.

What is sad is that “Making Moments” is not some monumental task. The things you do can be very small; they just need to matter to the one you are in a relationship with. That is why I would recommend The 5 Love Languages to anyone in a relationship (which I will review soon). It allows you to really figure out what is important to your significant other, and make the most out of the moments you are trying to make. Making these moments can be so many things, recently I have taken to writing my wife a love letter. Just randomly, it was not for any special day, I just wrote one. It had such an emotional impact on her I was genuinely shocked. I could see the state of affairs of our relationship and why we were in the situation we were in.

So by taking some time now to reflect on it, I was able to see that we had not built any really great moments in our relationship, of almost a decade, in awhile. I stopped to really think about some truly great moment we had together and came up with nothing. Yes, we enjoyed being around each other, we spent a lot of time sitting and enjoying television together, but nothing that really stood out. HOWEVER, and I capitalized it for a reason, I was able to, and with much detail, remember many of the arguments we had over the past year. Yes I said year! We were filling our relationship with the bad and not “Making Moments” out of it, positive ones that is.

While I cannot give you exact details on what to do with your partner, I can tell you what I have been doing for mine. While we have not been able to go out often, since we have our son, I have been working on things that are possible to do at home. I had a problem with forgetting to say the nice things, like I did when we first started dating. I would always compliment her and say great things of her, like how proud I was to have her around and lucky, so I try to do that with the letters. When we are out with people I make it a point to talk about her accomplishments at work to them, so they and her can really see that I am very proud of her. This helps to build a great moment, instead of poking fun at her for things she might say or do all night. Which is what happens in a lot of relationships after some time. That is fine and all, but you have to remember to build moments. So yes you can tease each other and have some fun, but that is not building a “Moment” and that is not going to cover up the awful fight you had last week.

I realize with that last statement that it might seem like “Making Moments” is just a way to cover up bad things that are going on. Its not, you still need to work on problems that are happening in the relationship, but you are more able to remember the reasons why you love them in the first place. The scale of the relationship won’t be tipping to the negative end, you won’t find yourself thinking, “Why am I doing this, why am I still here?”

So spend the time to think about some moments you can make, everyday. It’s important, and while it may seem little, they add up over time. Just like with reviews of restaurants, the bad ones seem to get further and passed along more, so make sure you have lots of good ones. Have a better tomorrow guys, talk to you soon!

Just Some Quotes

Just some Quotes

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I was looking around and just found some quotes that really hit the core of some of the things I am trying to do here at Tomorrow Won’t Suck:

“Be kind whenever possible.

It’s always possible.” ~Dalai Lama

Kindness is important here at Tomorrow Won’t Suck, because it is the hand that I am trying to extend to all of you. I want you all to know I am not here to pass any kind of judgment, just listen and aid when I can.

“…Cause there is a spark in you, you just gotta ignite the light. And let it shine.” ~Katy Perry

Something that I have not really gotten to touch on yet, but it’s the motivation to get out there and do what is important to you. Something you truly love, because so many people are scared to do it. They go out and help someone else live their dream, and leave theirs behind.

I am going to have some interviews coming soon, from some friends of mine who made the leap, and started making a living at doing what they love. So I hope to get that up for y’all soon, on YouTube and some written material here.

Enjoy the weekend! Have a better Tomorrow.


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Power of Please and Thank You

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Power of Please and Thank You

If this is your first time at the blog please check out my introduction post, so you know what we are about here at Tomorrow Won’t Suck.

First off you maybe thinking, How can saying, Please and/or Thank you help me? I think this specific topic is more like a spread the happiness and it will come back to you, kind of thing.

I live in Texas and it’s apart of the culture, the Southern Charm, that we say it often. However, even here, over time it begins to leave people’s repertoire. As people become more involved in their own life or move up the social ladder, they forget those words. I remember when I went to stay in Boston for a summer. Whenever I would go out to eat or grab something to drink, my requests were always punctuated with please and thank you. At one tea shop, I will never for get this, the worker there was so caught off guard by me saying please she actually stopped and said, “You know you are paying for this? And I have to do it.” After explaining that I understood how the service industry worked, and that I was from Texas, at that I got an audible “Ohhh” (like it all made sense now), I said thank you and she said that she appreciated the kind words. ** Side note: I lack a southern accent; usually people cannot tell where I am from. I do say y'all a lot and I am very proud of that.

Needless to say, someone being so caught off guard by those words is pretty terrible. That this kind of courtesy, a very common form, had become so alien to someone. It almost kind of sad, and here at Tomorrow Won’t Suck I cannot stand for that! Especially with people in the service industry. We all know those are not the most glamorous of jobs. Usually people working these jobs are in a transition in life. Normally they are going to school while working here or they have had a snag in the career field. The latter of the two could use a bit of kindness since, their self-esteem would be on the low end anyways. They could be the school going group, and do we really want to teach them that or make them feel like they are beneath use, because we can’t be bothered to say please or thank you?

Sorry for a bit of ranting, I use to be a server (And so I don’t offend anyone, some people make a great living in that field and are very happy with what they do). So what I am getting at is remember the please and thank you. To your peers, bosses, friends, if you have underlings, and even your children. Spreading that kindness makes others and yourself feel so much better. I guarantee you will feel better if you try it out.


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Article Question: Can you think of times Please and/or Thank You have helped improve your mood. Or times having said them have had a noticeable affect on whom you were saying it to?

Tomorrow Won't Suck

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Tomorrow Won’t Suck

What is it? Tomorrow Won’t Suck is my motivational revolution. I want to reach out and help people get out of their dark sad places. <Insert Tag Line>”I want you to take back your tomorrow, today!”</Insert Tag Line> There are too many people out their suffering in sadness or a funk, all alone. With all the resources we have, all the technology that can bridge so many gaps, this should not be the case. I want to us to stop all of that today! I want to hear from anyone, whatever the problem: bullying, relationship, job, or life in general.

What made me want to do this? I had a rough ending to 2012. My wife and I fell apart and I am currently out of work. Bad thing about all of this is the fact that I kept it all inside, and it started to hurt. Anyone who knows me can vouch that I am a really happy and up beat person, through almost any situation. That was leaving me though, and in its place was this dark poison. A poison that started in my heart and eventually worked its way to my brain. I began to feel like I had nothing to look forward to, like I couldn’t fix anything going on in my life, and it was hopeless (This get happier, very soon. I promise).

I no longer felt like the man/father that I was. Nothing made sense, school and life seemed so very unimportant. Then, after some time went on, my son’s smiling face pierced through some of the veil. I realized, for him as much as myself, I couldn’t keep going like this. So I set myself on a path to fixing that. I read some relationship books, finance material, and began watching and read tons of motivational material, like TED (Technology, Entertainment and Design) speeches. Which, I highly recommend anyone to do if they have some time.

I began to feel some hope and happiness, with the information I was finding. The poison began to breakdown and I had a clear goal of what I wanted to do. I realized through all of this, that there is one thing that I really love to do and that is talking to people. I am a pretty shy person, but I love to just have conversations with people and talking about life and what is going on with them, because everyone has such a unique way of living, that is always different from the person you talk to before. So my goal is to use this platform to get out there and communicate with as many of you possible. I want us to reach out and help all the people who feel lost and alone, because they are not. I want to build a community of peers who would like to help me accomplish these same goals. Helping anyone regardless of age, ethnicity, sex, and social background, because anyone can be feeling lost out there and I want to be there for them, nobody should feel like that anymore.

So in a nutshell, Tomorrow Won’t Suck is here to do a couple of things:

First help the downtrodden, pull them from their darkness.

Second, build a community of helpful people.

Finally just bring some happiness when possible.

I have a lot of things I want to get rolling, and I am going to succeed in this mission, because I really care about people and what is happening to them. I truly want to help and so I will succeed for all the people out there who I am trying to reach, and so my son can see that he has a father who is truly trying to do something right in the world. Like the many super heroes he reads about in comics every night, and I can hear him use those words for me, ”Daddy, you are a hero.”

So stick around and check in, in the mean time if you have something you need to talk about. Feel free to email me at: tomorrowwontsuck@gmail.com


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