Success in Two Words

Success in two Words 

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Today I want to talk about two things that lead to a successful career. They are going to seem obvious once they are said, but hopefully I can give you a different perspective (especially in regards to one of them). The two things, words in this case, are motivation and passion. Motivation I feel is a bit easier to understand, but passion seems to get escape some people.

Passion is the term that I feel gets a bit lost in translation for people. First lets go back to high school for a second, and plug the definition in here. Passion is “a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept,” (Merriam-Webster). What I feel happens to many of us, is we all like so many things, that it is hard to pin something down that brings us the most joy. Then you add in our indecisive natures and the wonderful ability that our brain has of not thinking linearly. You have this wonderful concoction called Chaos, which makes it hard to really figure out what is best for us. I personally feel, that as long as you truly enjoy something you can be happy doing it. It doesn’t have to be you most enjoyed, but if it is still a passion you will be perfectly fine.

We live in an age where if someone doesn’t understand something, they are not always the most understanding of the concept. So everyone has their own predetermined path of success, which most parents also have ideas for their children that are passed down. What I feel happens is that we are molded into thinking and accepting someone else’s path of success. For example, you may love to cook, but your family is composed of professors, lawyers, and bankers. They don’t think of that as a truly great career, and it starts to change your own path of success.

Now because of fear, you have lost your path and your true passions. You see yourself doing something because of different reasons, which were not originally important to you. If you want to blog for a living, cook, start a charitable cause, or anything just go out and do it. We only have one life to live, and we should not be out there making someone else’s dream come true. You should be doing what you love, and to make it profitable and successful it takes a LOT of hard work and a lot of the second word/concept I want to talk about.

Motivation, this is the driving force in your life. A lot of people either lose this or just don’t know what to be motivated about. Something I have always found cool where personality tests. People place different amounts of merit on these things, but I have always found them very cool and interesting (you can go here for a very good personality test). This can better help you to understand yourself, at least, which is always nice. Doing things that are out of the norm truly take a lot of hard work. Just starting this endeavor now has been more work than I initially thought. Coming up with things to talk about all the time and making the videos for my YouTube channel. Add this with the fear of the unknown, and it truly leaves people in a state of panic to truly pursue things they would love to do.

No matter what you want to do, you just need to take the first scary step. You will get lots of funny looks when you tell people, for example with me that I am just writing a blog and trying to start a motivational cause. I get it all the time, but we live in 2013, we have tons of things that we can use to make a living from anywhere on any schedule. I don’t need a boss, besides the wife, telling me what to do in order to feel like I am being successful. Just keep at it, things take time and the usually don’t happen over night. Lets have a better tomorrow guys, if you need anything message me.

Relationships: Built of Moments

Relationships: Built of Moments

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So some time last week I was watching the show the Millionaire Matchmaker. From the title you can guess she helps people find love, namely millionaires. I swear she must also be part psychologist (like it is some gene passed down, lol), because she is very insightful. The things she says are great, she is blunt yet honest and sincere. Which is probably why she is so successful at her job as she genuinely cares for both parties involved, the millionaire and the person she is setting them up with. Anyways, she said something in one of the episodes I was watching, where she told the millionaire to “make a moment” out of the situation he was in.

This got me thinking, “What are relationships really made out of?” What makes them so good, and yet end up so terrible sometimes? I started thinking in the beginning phases of a relationship you are making TONS of great happy moments. Moments that help to carry the majestic feelings of love you have forward. So even though in the beginning you are going to have some disagreements, they will be quickly over looked and left in the past. They are not going to be brought up again and used in a later argument as evidence, which is what happens in older relationships. I feel this is the case in older relationships because both parties have stopped “Making Moments”. Your feelings of joy and happiness with the person are not being a strongly pushed forward as some of the other things in your relationship are.

What is sad is that “Making Moments” is not some monumental task. The things you do can be very small; they just need to matter to the one you are in a relationship with. That is why I would recommend The 5 Love Languages to anyone in a relationship (which I will review soon). It allows you to really figure out what is important to your significant other, and make the most out of the moments you are trying to make. Making these moments can be so many things, recently I have taken to writing my wife a love letter. Just randomly, it was not for any special day, I just wrote one. It had such an emotional impact on her I was genuinely shocked. I could see the state of affairs of our relationship and why we were in the situation we were in.

So by taking some time now to reflect on it, I was able to see that we had not built any really great moments in our relationship, of almost a decade, in awhile. I stopped to really think about some truly great moment we had together and came up with nothing. Yes, we enjoyed being around each other, we spent a lot of time sitting and enjoying television together, but nothing that really stood out. HOWEVER, and I capitalized it for a reason, I was able to, and with much detail, remember many of the arguments we had over the past year. Yes I said year! We were filling our relationship with the bad and not “Making Moments” out of it, positive ones that is.

While I cannot give you exact details on what to do with your partner, I can tell you what I have been doing for mine. While we have not been able to go out often, since we have our son, I have been working on things that are possible to do at home. I had a problem with forgetting to say the nice things, like I did when we first started dating. I would always compliment her and say great things of her, like how proud I was to have her around and lucky, so I try to do that with the letters. When we are out with people I make it a point to talk about her accomplishments at work to them, so they and her can really see that I am very proud of her. This helps to build a great moment, instead of poking fun at her for things she might say or do all night. Which is what happens in a lot of relationships after some time. That is fine and all, but you have to remember to build moments. So yes you can tease each other and have some fun, but that is not building a “Moment” and that is not going to cover up the awful fight you had last week.

I realize with that last statement that it might seem like “Making Moments” is just a way to cover up bad things that are going on. Its not, you still need to work on problems that are happening in the relationship, but you are more able to remember the reasons why you love them in the first place. The scale of the relationship won’t be tipping to the negative end, you won’t find yourself thinking, “Why am I doing this, why am I still here?”

So spend the time to think about some moments you can make, everyday. It’s important, and while it may seem little, they add up over time. Just like with reviews of restaurants, the bad ones seem to get further and passed along more, so make sure you have lots of good ones. Have a better tomorrow guys, talk to you soon!

Just Some Quotes

Just some Quotes

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I was looking around and just found some quotes that really hit the core of some of the things I am trying to do here at Tomorrow Won’t Suck:

“Be kind whenever possible.

It’s always possible.” ~Dalai Lama

Kindness is important here at Tomorrow Won’t Suck, because it is the hand that I am trying to extend to all of you. I want you all to know I am not here to pass any kind of judgment, just listen and aid when I can.

“…Cause there is a spark in you, you just gotta ignite the light. And let it shine.” ~Katy Perry

Something that I have not really gotten to touch on yet, but it’s the motivation to get out there and do what is important to you. Something you truly love, because so many people are scared to do it. They go out and help someone else live their dream, and leave theirs behind.

I am going to have some interviews coming soon, from some friends of mine who made the leap, and started making a living at doing what they love. So I hope to get that up for y’all soon, on YouTube and some written material here.

Enjoy the weekend! Have a better Tomorrow.


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The Survivor Effect

The Survivor Effect

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I have two favorite reality shows, and I get deeply into to them. One more so than the other, but still its pretty intense. Those two shows are Survivor and Big Brother. Big Brother I would love to be on, and Survivor scares me, so that probably means I should try it to help work through some fears… Anyways getting off track.

On Survivor, they have a group of four who are the self-appointed cool kids AND the self-appointed prettiest people of the island. Here at Tomorrow Won’t Suck, and I going to do my best to leave out any negative language to anyone, even if I feel they deserve it, since that goes against what I want for this Revolution. However, it’s a shame to see that these people have “grown up”, are well past the high school years and are still making comments of how they will not let anyone join their cool kid table.

One of these four people are so pretentious, more so than I have seen on a reality show anywhere. I am not listing any names, because you can go watch the show, at CBS and you will be able to tell. I really do not have to embellish to paint the picture I am trying to paint.

What I am getting at with this article, is that when you are at school, ”cool kids” make life sooooo much more difficult for others. I had more bad times in high school than good. It was kind of an oppressive place for me. Getting out of high school and into college was one of the best moments, because everyone was much more open and understanding. People in high school really want to be cool and fit in, and the “cool kids” are some of the worst. They want to do whatever it takes to fit in… including picking on other people for a laugh or shunning someone because they are different than what they are.

The people who are going to be so vocal about not liking who you are DO NOT matter, in the slightest. You should not let it bother you at all, I wish I could go back and tell myself, it doesn’t matter at all what they think, and I should know I am a good person. Since the people who really spent the time to get to know me, enjoyed having me around, talking to me, and caring about what goes on in your life. Not immature people, who are so concerned with how they are viewed by their “friends” that they have to call you out because of your skin color, sexuality, hairstyle, or clothing.

To be fair, the uncool people out number the cool people. It is something I think the “cool kids” are pretty aware of and they do what they can to make sure they stay where they are on the social ladder. Which is what I love about social experiment shows like Survivor and Big Brother, the mean and cruel never when because of what they have done. The other members of the tribe realized that and they came together to not be pushed around by them. So if you find yourself in a situation where you are being bullied, leave the situation. I wish I had left all the situations I was involved in like that, and just left. Why did I feel like I had to sit there and listen to all the mean things they had to say? It doesn’t make sense but I did. So leave to situation, and if this is at school, let a teacher know, and then go to your friends. You are there to learn and have fun and nobody should take that away from you. So ignore the people who don’t care about you, and listen to the ones who do.

/End rant


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